Well, to talk a bit about friends, I'm strongly of the opinion that friends shouldn't lie to each other. Bluntness is often more kind in the long run. If nothing else, it prevents letting things build up to the point where nothing can be done to prevent a load of embarassment. Always be up front with someone. This doesn't mean be mean to them, but don't lead them to wonder what you're really thinking. Let them know, in as nice a way as possible, but as soon as possible.

 If that's not vague enough for you, the same things can be said in all the courts of life: buisness, love, family, etc. Some people get a real kick from crushing peoples feelings. Others don't realize they're doing it. Still others do it because they think they're actually doing more good than harm, protecting them from things. This hardly ever works. In the long run, it causes more problems.

 My words of wisdom: Take some sort of initiative, because too many people are content to sit back and wait. Even if you're wrong, you've at least done something, and it can be corrected. For the most part, most decisions in life can be changed or taken back. Try some things. It usually can't hurt. Certainly not as much as not trying does.

 Anyone who tells you otherwise needs to talk to me, so I can get some different viewpoints. The other trick to being "good people" besides "bluntness" or forwardness, is to remain as objective as possible. It's really hard at times, but it has to be done.

 Now before anyone goes and takes all this to heart as a new life lesson, remember: these are my thoughts at the moment, and I'm not in the best of moods. It's possible, no matter how hard I try, that I'm not being objective. Also, what works for one person doesn't neccessarily work for another. But these are my thoughts, and I warned you on the previous page not to read them if you didn't want to know. All I hope is that if you've gotten this far, you're at least thinking of things in a new way.

 As a counterpoint to my own argument, and to show I at least have the minimal amount of objectivity, there is also alot to be said of control. It's a balance between control and bluntness that must be found. Usually, the best thing, I've found, is to simply make your feelings known, and be sure you're very clear about what you're saying and you weren't misinterpreted, then sit back a while and see what happens. Don't rub someone's face in it, or you'll just make them mad and work against whatever you want to accomplish. It's confusing, but no one ever said people make sense.

 And that's all I'm going to say about that at the moment.


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