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One of the main things in our society at large that really frustrates me is the seeming lack of respect for relationships. All too often, one spouse or the other cheats on their partner. Couples that have declared that they are in a monogamous, committed relationship break up so many times because one or the other person cheats.

Because so much of this cheating happens, many people look upon all persons as possible partners. This includes married couples.

We need to examine why so many of us are willing to make a commitment to someone and then feel free to engage in amorous and sexual behavior with someone else on the sly.

Why do we make commitments?

We make commitments in order to establish a time period for which we can count on the other person being there for us and visa versa. We also do this to promise that we will not bring home disease to our family. If there are children, then we make commitments to take care of and raise the children together.

Short of death, abuse, addiction, adultery and deception on the part of our spouse(God only help us if we do those things!), there is no excuse for breaking our word to someone else.

But what of the people who participate in the demise of a family? What of the people who have such little respect for the commitments that someone else made that they will participate in the destruction of a relationship. I warn anyone who thinks that this is a smart move to consider the following: If your lover is cheating on someone else now, will they not cheat on you later? Best to leave that person alone or stay away until the relationship dissolves on its own.

When a gay couple forms a committed relationship, there may be a Holy Union or a home commitment ceremony or just a verbal commitment between the two. There is currently not legal partnership that is recognized other than domestic partnership agreements. You will probably not see a lot of this even if it becomes legal because so many employers discriminate against gay persons. People who have employers such as these would lose their jobs eventually. Since discrimination is so hard to prove, these people would not stand a chance.

It is an interesting thing in American society today. Many describe the gay population as being loose, but they provide no legitimate means for gay committed couples to be recognized.

It is time that the gay and lesbian community respected the commitments that are made within the community.

It is time for ALL PEOPLE to respect all committed relationships.

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